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Dating Delights: Why Finding Love In Bangkok As A Foreign Man Is Like Shooting Fish In A Barrel



I don’t do how to’s or any of the usual blog fluff and clickbait churned out by bloggers about how to hook up with Thai women here on Stickboy for a few reasons.

The main ones being the guys writing these silly guides come off as tossers the majority of the time and I’m also not in the business of telling people what they should and shouldn’t be doing with their lives (or money) when it comes to who they choose to be with.

If you want to hook up with a woman 20 years your junior or one who has seen more cockends than weekends from working the pole then that is your choice. Why should I care about how others choose to live their life? As long as it is legal, fill yer boots is my thinking.

I also don’t run any dating affiliate ads that the articles are usually built around and almost always mention as a way of meeting good girls. Yeah, sure. That is the (second) last place you want to be looking for love.

With all that said, today I’m going to make an exception after reading Dating Despair: Why finding love in Bangkok is hard for foreign men on Coconuts Bangkok and tell you that finding love in Bangkok as a foreign man is like shooting fish in a barrel.

Finding Love In Bangkok As A Foreign Man Is Like Shooting Fish In A Barrel

Before I jump in and load your gun with babe busting bullets let me cover the negatives from the Coconuts article, that was written by… a woman.

“Oh, but I’m worried what people think of me with my hot uni girlfriend”.

Please. Stop. Who gives a shit what people think? Have you nothing better to be getting on with in your life than wondering what people might be thinking? If they are even thinking it at all because the only people I see judging foreigners life choices are other foreigners. The vast majority of Thais on the BTS couldn’t give a rats ass which stop you are getting off at or with who, be in Nana or National Stadium. They don’t care, 15 years ago for sure but times are a-changing.

“Is she with me for my money?”

You probably haven’t got a pot to piss in so no, she’s not with you because you earn 60k a month. If your little lady was motivated by money she’d be aiming higher, a lot higher.

“She doesn’t trust me and forces me to spend time with her family not to mention give them a bung every time they are broke”.

If she doesn’t trust you having a few bevvies with the boys then it is time to reach for that top pocket and pull out the red card. You’re with the wrong woman. If someone is forcing you to do anything against your will then it is time to grow a pair, man up and stop letting her wear the trousers 24/7.

All Bangkok expat dating dilemmas and failed relationships I hear or read about are down to those individuals and the choices / decisions they make often leaving them with a great big chip on their shoulder.

Finding Love In Bangkok As A Foreign Man Is Like Shooting Fish In A Barrel

So how do you find love in Bangkok?

Simple. Open your eyes, take your nose out your phone, stay away from places you pay for services rendered and talk to everyday people.

It’s not bloody rocket science.

Instead of telling you how and where I think it would be easier to list what you should be avoiding in your search for love, or at least a date to get the ball rolling, because we are all different and what works for me might, and probably won’t, work for you. And I’m not Dr Dating.

Greater Bangkok has a population estimated at around 12 million and is absolutely massive in size. That’s a lot of single women in a lot of places yet the majority stick to the same small bubbles they have created for themselves and think traveling from Asoke to Ari is the stuff of an Antarctic expedition.

Now I’m not saying you can’t find love on the Sukhumvit strip but I’d suggest scoring a line through that and broaden your horizons.

If you don’t speak some basic conversational Thai then it is time you learned to because without it you’re options are slashed dramatically. And think about it, if you do meet the love of your life and plan to be together “Till Death Do You Part”… the Thai you have learned is going to come in pretty handy.

Dating sites are a waste of time unless you are going to pay for a premium service and learn how to use the advanced features otherwise you’re going to be chatting mainly with hookers and gold diggers.

I know I said above dating sites are the (second) last place to go looking for love, knocking shops are top of the list, but some of you will be shy and lack confidence.

The other downside to online dating for me is all that chat and messenger bs. You can’t read the persons face or reactions to the conversation like you could if you were talking to them face to face in real life, so if you come across someone you like and their replies are positive ask them out for a coffee quick style. No pissing about with useless chit chat talking bollocks.

Approaching women in public is perfectly fine but you better have the patter and personality to pull it off otherwise you’re gonna come over as a creep or a sexpest meaning you’re going to get absolutely nowhere, not to mention look like Wally The Weirdo.

When you do meet someone ask them for their actual phone number. Forget Facebook, Whatsapp and Line until you’ve been out together on at least one proper date.

Those with half a brain will have twigged what I’m getting at here after only a couple of paragraphs. Those who haven’t are in for a tough time.

Oh and one more thing. Tell the truth.

If you are 55 tell people you are 55. Why lie and dig yourself a great big hole? If you go telling a few porkies what happens 3 months down the road when you’re getting on like a house on fire but your new love thinks you are 10 years younger?

You’ll need to tell her sometime and when you do she’s going to question everything you’ve ever told her and it will eventually end with you saying, “there goes another relationship”.

If a fat forty-something with a face like a well skelped arse like me can easily find a date, why can’t you? Not that I need to these days now that I’m a happily married man…

Stickboy aka Sticky Boy aka Mike McKay aka Mike McKwai, Wild Mike, Magic Mike, Mr Mike, and a fair few more best forgotten, is a party animal with hollow legs who loves music, current affairs, beer, food, causing trouble on Twitter, and making the most of life without worrying too much about what people think or say about his antics. You can send him stuff here -

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A Night Out At Tartbox



A Night Out At Tartbox

During the dry spell when there was no beer to be had Artbox at Sukhumvit Soi 10 turned into a popular spot as refreshments were available.

It wasn’t only refreshments that were available but there was also the potential to meet ladies for some short time shenanigans as there was simply nowhere else for working girls, or those short on money and an itch to scratch, to meet men with some cash to splash on a bit of horizontal mambo.

Artbox didn’t really take my fancy when a few mates had said they were going but on Saturday night they decided to drop by for a beer and a bite to eat before moving on to the Neon Alley. I caved in and decided to join them.

Having taken a wander around buying food and parking my arse close to the stage I soon came to the conclusion the sign out front needed changing from Artbox to Tartbox.

I didn’t see the security guard at the gate on cleavage duty but there must have been one as everywhere I turned all I could see was tits hanging out on display for all to see and admire.

One lady with massive melons came close to a wardrobe malfunction on several occasions as she bounced around from stall to stall with all the bloke’s eyes popping out as she passed their tables. This woman wasn’t shy and was more than happy to show off her assets.

I spotted a few familiar faces in the crowd who normally ply their trade on Soi 4 too, and yes, they were all showing off the girls like it was a competition to see who could show the most.

One thing to keep in mind if you do decide to go for a nosy and chance your arm is not everyone you see there is looking to hook up. It really is a mixed crowd so watch out you don’t get a slap for making an indecent proposal to a group of girls there to have a drink after they’ve clocked off from the office.

Will Artbox continue to be a pick-up place for ladies of the night in the future?

Who knows with bars and other nightlife venues starting to reopen there are more choices of where to go man hunting.

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Opening Night At Nana Plaza Was A Blast



Opening Night At Nana Plaza Was A Blast

July 1st was the day many owners and customers had been waiting for since the middle of March when entertainment and nightlife were allowed to resume.

My plan was to visit all three bar areas to see what was going on and share it here on the website and do a few updates on social media.

The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry as the saying goes and that’s exactly what happened. My whistle-stop tour became an adventure in Nana Plaza and boy, did we have ourselves a grand old time.

With some bars deciding to wait until after the long weekend with 2 dry days we had ourselves a list of 9 bars to visit and we kicked things off in Morning Night.

As we progressed through the outside beer bars to Stumble Inn, Big Dogs and K&S our entourage started rapidly growing in numbers.

There were lots of happy smiling faces in each of the four beer bars we visited and a decent amount of customers around too.

Time to venture inside Nana Plaza where you are asked to check-in via the Thai Chana app or alternatively sign in with your name, time and mobile number, at the entrance. Masks are required and once you’ve had your temperature taken and offered hand sanitizer you’re good to go in less than 30 seconds.

First up was Spanky’s for me while some of the guys opted to check out Twister BKK.

As you would expect, the middle floor house of fun was crushing it. Spanky’s was rocking and almost full when I popped in. Happy days.

My aim was to make sure we visited every bar that was open so it was a quick drink and a catch-up with all the usual suspects on and off the stage before moving on.

Next stop for us was Rainbow 4 where we planned to meet with the boys who headed to Twister BKK. In we go and ask where’s the bell…. “mai mee”. Huh? You haven’t got a bell?

We ordered a round and a few moments later a bell appeared. Ding, ding, ding.

Lots of cuties to keep me busy but to be fair, it wouldn’t have been difficult to spot some eye candy as the owners had filled the bar with at least 100 dancers.

It was the same story in both Rainbow 5 and 2 plus Twister BKK. All those bars had no fewer than 100 girls dancing. That’s a lot of chrome pole crumpet to choose from.

The man who appeared with the bell in Rainbow 4 was on the ball and accompanied us to Rainbow 5, formerly Twister Bar, before we all moved downstairs to Rainbow 2 which was heaving with dancing dollybirds. I fell in love at least 5 times in the hour we were there.

One for the road in Twister BKK which I missed on the first visit and damn, it was like Hotties R Us.

It’s too easy for me to get in trouble. I’m weak but there was no monkey business for old Stick last night.

It was burgers and bed after a great night out with the boys.

Hats off to all the bar owners who jumped in on the first day of opening who made a fine effort. As the week goes on more bars will be opening giving you even more choice and by the middle of next week, the whole Plaza will be open again.

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It’s Not A Race



The race to be number one is as old as man but in modern times, in a fast-paced world of news and social media things are at an all-new high when it comes to being “first”.

Sure, it feels great to be first with a scoop but it can come at a cost as most news outlets and reporters have come to learn in recent months with COVID-19 coverage.

Desperation to announce the latest coronavirus numbers before anyone else each day became a talking point on Twitter back in March as reporters banged away on their phones and computers as the stats were released.

Mistakes were made almost daily, corrections added later but in truth, not a care was given by any of the guilty parties. All that mattered was they Tweeted the stats first, even when they were wrong with one so-called journalist sharing the previous days numbers that were never corrected. She simply didn’t realise what a cock-up she’d made of it.

Not A Race

In the past few weeks, the same scenario has been repeated with news outlets desperate to be first with booze news and information on easing of restrictions.

I can’t think of one news website who didn’t run the ridiculous story of a two-day amnesty to allow people to purchase alcohol when sales were banned.

The story first appeared on Khaosod Online who sourced the story from who knows where and every man and his dog were all over it like a rash taking what had been published as fact and re-wrote the fairytale.

Did any of them bother to do a bit of research such place a couple of calls to ask a few questions to shed any light on the story, or anything else that might have enlightened them that the whole thing was a farce from the start? Of course they didn’t.

It was just too good not to publish as it was the #1 story of the day that turned out to be complete and utter nonsense.

Over and over again I have been told that I’m not sharing enough news on what is going on right now. I beg to differ.

The updates I have shared have been factual and accurate. Yes, I’ve sat back while others churn out clickbait crap as I don’t want to be part of that party.

Big news outlets get a pass when they share inaccurate stories, just look at the Bangkok Post – you all still read it and believe everything they publish despite dozens of misleading and inaccurate articles over the past 3 months.

If I was to do the same and publish something that turned out to be wrong, nobody would ever believe another word I said. I don’t have a gold “Get Out Of Fake News Jail Free” card.

And to be honest, that’s just the way I like it. Stickboy traffic and stats are great, I don’t need or want to be part of the clickbait crowd. I will continue to share news stories and information that I think will be of interest when the time is right.

It’s not a race, well, at least not for me.

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